We all know someone who has the “gift of the gab”, the ability to walk into any situation with any group of people and strike up a scintillating conversation about just about anything. Why, they can even make the weather fascinating. Ever wonder how they pull it off? You may not be the mistress of deep discussions, but you can easily tackle the challenge of small talk.
Small talk is the simple chit-chat between two people who are in a situation where some type of conversation is better than not speaking at all. You may run into a co-worker at a business luncheon buffet, or be left standing with a neighbor at a check-out line and be at a loss for words. Starting a conversation may be uncomfortable, but we have a few tips to make things so much easier.
Keep it Simple: You do not have to be able to wax poetic on world politics or economics just because you are about to speak with your supervisor or someone intimidating (or anyone for that matter). Many people are afraid they won’t come across as ‘smart’. A simple hello and asking them how they are will often be just enough to get things going, and your friendly interest will be impressive.
Keep it Familiar: Is there something you both may know about that you can bring up? Is the weather in your area suddenly cold and worth taking about? Did someone you both work with make a speech you can remark on? Perhaps the person you’re talking to is wearing a new jacket you would like to compliment them on. Start off with something familiar and watch the conversation expand from there.
Keep it Short: Small talk is just that – it’s small. Simple conversation about common issues like the weather, a sports game, a television show, is best. You can connect with each other, perhaps share a laugh, and move on.
Keep it Nice: You may want to rant about a political situation or really spout off about something that’s on your mind, but remember that with small talk you are having a short conversation that will leave a lasting impression. Think of something pleasant you can talk about and if possible, avoid gossip. If you are joining a group that is already in conversation, hold off diving in with something that’s off topic. Listen, allow others to speak, and react with good manners.
Mastering the art of small talk can lead to great conversations, improve your exposure at work with key people, and really give you the reputation as someone worth getting to know better.
